Thursday, August 26, 2010

It's really not so bad..

You know how we launched our first child off to college this past week?

And I spent most of last school year wondering how we would survive graduation?

And then I spent several weeks wondering if I'd survive this massive graduation party?

And then I spent several weeks trying to figure out if I'd ever get over being sick? or having allergies? or whaaaateeever it was making me feel crappy?

And then I got some allergy medicine and decided that there was only one month left before the child left for school, so I'd better spend some time being sad and depressed?

And then there wasn't any more time to be sad, so we just wondered how to survive the last week.

And then, was I going to live long enough to see him leave the O'Hare airport and actually get to school??

And then it was scramble scramble scramble to rearrange all the furniture in the house, start school AND have Grandma and Grandpa Webber visit on the first day of Hallstrom.

And for some odd reason, I feel a very peaceful sense of relief.

And I'm almost ashamed to admit it. I'm happy, not sad that he's there. He loves it and is having fun. He's being challenged and making friends. He hasn't been able to remember to eat dinner very often, but he's working on it. LOL.

And I? I am not scrambling around trying to get him a trainer, another SAT score, a perfect transcript, robotics fund raising and all that jazz. In fact, I have forbid robotics for this year.

We are even cutting down on music lessons for this semester. (I know. I know.. what a slacking family!)

So, when you are wondering if the teenage years are hard, they are. But only if your child is causing pain to your heart by rejecting the Lord. Other than being very exhausting, having teens is kind of like cashing in your 401K. You finally get to see some fruit for your labor. Time will tell what type of fruit--spiritual, academic, work ethic, etc.?

But there is a sense of rest, if you will, from the whole grueling experience reaching to this level. In a sense, their lives are just beginning. They have choices to make. We've given them the tools to make good decisions, but they have to struggle through those things and find what is good. And deal with it when they choose what is bad.

And now the real work begins--prayer. My friend, Kathy, reminded me what a tough job praying is. I had never thought of it as hard, but then, I have never prayed a lot. I'm a bouncing hedgehog. It's hard to sit still, you know? But I'm going to have to find new ways to pray, since that will be my number one way to help my son at college. There are no rules about praying. I hear you can pray while you are taking walks or doing all sorts of things.

So, is this such a bad time in our lives? No, it's really not so bad. And it's probably because I have 218 people praying for us. Thanks so much!


The dB family said...

Thank you for this post. You've put it into perspective for me. What you wrote is so true. We're just embarking on those lovely teenage years, but you've given me confidence.


Cassie said...

You a boys I am terrified...I hope I can be as great of a teacher and Mother as you have sound pretty amazing. And you are so funny. Good luck to your son!

Cassie said...

That's what I get for typing while holding the baby. I meant, I have 3 boys .....I don't know how I wrote, you a boys. weird...

Mrs. Parunak said...

So glad to know you're doing well with this next chapter. And it's nice to hear that the teen years are a "cash in" time. I just need to be sure I'm making wise investments now. When I read the part about you being a bouncing hedgehog and needing to pray, I thought of myself. My best prayer time is when I'm at the gym, bouncing very hard indeed. Maybe you should combine prayer and exercise like walking or something?

Sarah said...

Prayer discipline is not so easy. I'm still learning! Even the disciples said: Lord teach us to pray. I find myself rambling on and on about the needs of my children and only then do I think of all the other people I said I would pray for. But what Kathy said is true: when the children are far away, this is a powerful Weapon (perhaps not the right word) that we have, bringing them into God's presence and asking his blessing and protection for them.

Lesa's Life said...

The more you pray, the easier it becomes. That's what I found anyway. The planes flying overhead..quick prayer for their safety. Ambulance driving by..quick prayer for everyone in it and their family & friends. Empty chair at the table...quick prayer for the son that used to sit there. Noticing staying home because no kid to be driven to practice...quick prayer for the kid growing to be a man. You'll find yourself praying all day long. What could be better than that?

Herding Grasshoppers said...

Oh those are good words :D

And may I recommend an excellent book?

When Mothers Pray by Cheri Fuller. Lots of wonderful, practical ways to pray for our kids of all ages.

Priceless. (And cheap. Used on amazon.)


Organizing Mommy said...

Sounds like a good book! I need to get that!.

Cassie, You are a great MOM. One day at a time, a mother is made.

Amazing Hedgehogs.