A good family makes room for a good marriage. Plain and simple. Things SHOULD not be looking right from the outside if things are not right from the inside..
But what we are realizing is what everyone has been telling us for the past 20 years--relationships take time. and effort. and money. and mostly time.
And kindness. a lot of kindness..
Am I actually suggesting that you go out and spend money on yourself to make yourself more sexy for your husband? yes. and most definitely YES! And it is fun too. And I know how you feel about going into the "underwear store".. What if someone sees me in here? And does everything need to be hot pink? Don't they make things for people my age? I know. I know. Note to self: find underwear store for middle aged, classy women.
Turn Up the Heat by Kevin Leman. 5 stars! Brilliant, insightful, respectful and funny. Now there's a book about that topic (for married people, please).
other book I reviewed on that topic, this one gets a gold star rating from me. And I'm a tough critic. He's a counselor, a godly Christian man, and he's not creepy. And he makes us laugh at ourselves, what could be better? And he helps us with our delicate issues in marriage that polite people don't just sit around chatting about at the fellowship dinner.
And my shy, but stalwart man gave an excellent exposition (in mixed company) of the Song of Solomon a few weeks ago. He told me his undershirt was wringing wet when he was done teaching it, and he was so glad it was over. But I think he did a great job on a very difficult topic. No one can be more proud of him than I am.
A good man who loves the Lord Jesus, who faithfully serves his family by going to work each day and doing his best, who travels when his job requires it, who isn't crabby after a long day, who manages to listen to his wife's 10,000 words each day, who makes tea and serves it to his wife, and I'm just getting started-- deserves more than I can give him.
But he hangs in there with me. He just does.
Thank you, Lord for 21 happy years.