Saturday, September 29, 2012


Occasionally, (ever so occasionally) I write something that sends someone's tail standing straight up on end.  Naw!  Not me.  Yes, me.

So, I am retracting a post about beauty secrets in which I offensively mentioned a prostitute with a gapped tooth.  It was meant to draw the extreme contrasts in beauty trends, but it ended up making it look like I was making fun of people who did not have dental care.  Bad. bad.  I have crooked teeth also, so that was not my intent.  What should have been made clearer is that people are actually purposely putting gaps between their teeth and calling it beauty.  As one reader said, "they are taking a dremel tool and making the gaps more visible..."

And was I trying to get people to stumble when I mentioned the gal "humping the thin air".. ?? actually just the opposite.  If you can get people to laugh and bring it to the extreme, it totally disarms the seriousness of this and makes it rather comedic, rather than tempting.  So, in essence, all bad images should be seen this way, and I think the porn industry will go out of business in one month flat.

Well. well.  I will hide it from viewer reading by the end of the week.  If you must have that post after that, I can send it to you.

My audience is consists of middle-aged to young mommies who take great delight in serving their husbands and children and homeschooling but really enjoy (NEED)  a good laugh from time to time.  Not that I'm opposed to other people reading my blog.  Hey, Pastor Steve's wife told me, "Steve just LOVES your blog!"  Yeah for Steve.  He must be really able to think like a middle-aged mommy in order to get anything out of the blog, but his wife is awesome and she's been training him for 22 years or whatever.

But the truth is this.  We all offend people from time to time.  We can't take it our ourselves too seriously.  I also edify people from time to time.  We can't give ourselves too much credit either.
Neither extreme is great, and I've learned to not worry about it too much.

So, with that, I'm going to bed.  I'm giving you all a virtual hug and telling you it is OK to offend someone once in a while, but it's not OK to never live your life for fear of offending someone.

Live like no one is watching.
Dance to the music in your head.
Sing like there is something to sing about.
Write and your soul is fed.


Herding Grasshoppers said...

Jena, I thought it was hilarious. Still think so :D

Bernadette Veenstra said...

Amen. "It is okay to offend someone once in a while. It is not okay to not live out your life." I don't think we should go out of our way to offend people, but not everyone thinks the same way about things. Frankly-it is your blog and you can say whatever you want. No one else HAS to read it. Just saying.

sara said...


I respect your soft heart and your willingness to put aside your "rights" for the love of your sisters and brothers. Excuse my paraphrase, but we are our sisters' keepers. :)

Lorie said...

Jena, I have been reading your blog for awhile now, but haven't ever commented. Just so you know, no offense was taken by the previous post. love your blog!

Jena said...

thanks everyone! You are all very sweet!

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