Tuesday, April 23, 2013

turning their hearts part 3

In my last two posts about turning their hearts, I introduced the subject of turning the heart of our husbands toward the children and then  what to do in less than ideal circumstances.

Let's say you have a husband and kids.  Things are basically good, but you know that distraction lurks at every corner.

I think the Lord has given us moms an inner sense of what is going on with our children and husbands, and it is up to us not to ignore those signals.  We can "connect" them, if we choose to.

Moms are, by definition, peace-makers.

It's up to us to create a peace-filled home.  We have the capacity to be that "oil" of smoothness in the home.  But it takes work.  a lot of work.

In yesterday's post, I referred to the struggle that we all face on a daily basis.  We have to choose whether or not to live in the light.  We have to choose to be women of beauty and let the Holy Spirit have control of our minds, souls and bodies.

We have to choose to be kind, thoughtful, selfless, disciplined creatures.

And we have to know, understand and communicate love to our husbands and then to our children.

I, as a selfish creature, find this to be:  hard work.

Hard. hard. hard. work.

And then, after that hard work, we have to choose to leave the results with the Lord.

Not necessarily producing results is no excuse for giving up.

Here is what is going to happen.

We start loving on our husband and kids.  They sense that "Mom is happy" and finally they can go and do what they want to do.

In other words, we have trained our husbands and children to do what we want them to do as a result of our getting upset.  We cry, whine, manipulate, control and stomp around until we get results.

Here's the challenge for the day.  Are you ready?

Don't do it for them.  Don't change your methods of dealing with your family for their sakes.  Do it for you.  And do it for the Lord.

Give up the need for results, and just make changes because it is good for you.
yeah.  That's right.  It is just plain good for you to not be one of "those" moms who succumbs to all of the nonsense just for the temporary pleasure of getting instant results.

Be content to let them be confused.  And just enjoy being a better you.




4 comments:

The dB family said...

"Be content to let them be confused. And just enjoy being a better you."

Love it!! So true!

Blessings!
Deborah

Nita Brainard said...

Yeah

kathrynwarmstrong said...

I'm slowly learning to treat others the way I believe God would want me to treat them if they were normal, godly human beings...never responding to how they may react, but trying to love them with grace and respect...no matter what. 'Tis a challenge, though, since we all tend by nature to respond according to the way others respond to us.

kathrynwarmstrong said...

I'm slowly learning to treat others the way I believe God would want me to treat them if they were normal, godly human beings...never responding to how they may react, but trying to love them with grace and respect...no matter what. 'Tis a challenge, though, since we all tend by nature to respond according to the way others respond to us.