Monday, November 16, 2009

Pausing for Rhonda

Out of all the things most tragic in this life, one of the worst has to be when a mom departs from this world, leaving a husband and children behind.

Sure, people die everyday--some accidents, some elderly, some.. but not someone you know. Not someone whose husband sits next to my husband at work. And even though the cancer has been coming and going for seven years, the day of her parting was unknown until yesterday.

Sometime in the morning hours, on the Lord's day, a weak, frail body adorned by a strong, determined soul went to be with her Lord and Savior.

I know very little about Rhonda's life. She was a principal of a Christian school in town. No doubt, every student and family of the school will be at the funeral. I only met her once--at last year's company Christmas party. She and Brian stood at our table, nibbling hors d'ourves. She was tall, slim and pretty. She smiled politely. They had several engagements that night and stopping off at the party was just one of many things they had to do that evening.

I gobbled up my plate and was seeking out more food when I wondered how she.. how they.. were doing it. Was she in pain? Was she nauseated? Was she aware that this was her last company Christmas party? Others at the party were talking, singing, getting drunk.. (the usual) and there she was..

Then again, what is she supposed to do? Give up? Decide to stop life?

And what is he supposed to do? There's Brian--Mr. Fitness himself. When he wasn't working, he was working out--3, or 4 hours a day. When he was working, he was double distracting himself by listening to music on his earbuds or encouraging others. Everyone who was trying to loose weight or wanted to run or wanted attention, there he was. He was always "Mr. rah-rah" to whomever needed encouragement. Will said that he ended every conversation with a thumbs up and "that's great!" to anyone and everyone who came near his desk.

And Will should know. He sits right near him. Brian was the cheerleader of many, so he made it his business to encourage everyone.. until last Friday.

Something happened that Will had never observed before. Brian realized that for the first time since this disease started (cancer) that "we're not going to win this battle".

And as of yesterday, the battle was officially over. For Rhonda, she is at peace. For Brian, who like many men dealing with grief, had not faced reality until recently. The new battle is just beginning. There is so much to learn and suffer through before the peace comes.

Pray for this family. Pray that Will can be a source of encouragement to him in the coming days also.

(photo of the family and their two daughters)


sara said...

yes, praying.

Trica (Tree' - ka) said...

Will definitely keep this family in my prayers

Herding Grasshoppers said...

Though we grieve for those left behind, we rejoice for Rhonda.

Rhonda WON! The cancer is dead and she is alive with the Lord.

Praying for her family,


Braley Mama said...

Praying for that family!

DarcyLee said...

I will also be praying for this family especially the husband/father who will have so much to deal with in the near future trying to be both mother and father to his children. I will also be praying that your husband can be a source of strength and encouragement for this grieving man.

Becky said...

We will certainly keep him in our prayers.

Mrs. Parunak said...

Praying for Brian and for Will to know how to support him.

Sarah said...

I'm praying that good friends will know how to support them.
I am so sorry about this.

Erin said...

Oh, that poor man...My husband once told me that men would much rather go to battle for us and be battered and broken themselves than have it happen to us. Now he's going to be struggling to redefine his life and continue to raise his children and cope with the idea he couldn't save her for them. I will definitely keep them in my prayers.

The dB family said...

I am praying for Brian and his family.


Jena Webber said...

I'm leaving for the funeral right now. Thanks for praying.

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